Miss Amalia Hope walking into Sunday school🥹💖!!!

I remember a few years ago before the teaching began, the pastor instructed the kiddos to head to their Sunday school classrooms. My mom leaned over and said, “one day that will be yours!” 

Fast forward, here we are💖

One confident, happy and kind hearted baby girl running around the classroom without a care.

Grateful is an understatement. 

(I cried whenever I was left alone 😂 so I am very thankful she did not get that from me 😂🙏🏼)

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my fall loafers. #ltkunder100 
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🍁🍂💛 We never sit still, but how can you w 🍁🍂💛
We never sit still, but how can you when there is something new to see in every day.

The beauty I’m learning, in toddlerhood is they find the joy in almost anything.

A leaf? Won the lottery
Grocery shopping? A social event 
Walking out back? A chance to marvel at all the trees. 

Every parent knows it, but you really get a new chance to re live again when you have kids. A chance to see life for the beauty, simplicity, and pureness that it is. 

Grateful for the new vision parenthood continues to give me. 

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop our outfits
https://liketk.it/3OR5b
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Labour day weekend fun 💛🤍 Hope you had a sa Labour day weekend fun 💛🤍

Hope you had a safe and beautiful long weekend! 

My cottagecore dress is adorable (and affordable). I’d recommend sizing down for a fitted look, as it has a nice stretch to it. I’m in an xs 💖

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my outfits 
https://liketk.it/3OIkp
Easy like Sunday morning ✨💖 (➡️Peep Osca Easy like Sunday morning ✨💖

(➡️Peep Oscar and Amalia, 15 years from now 😂💛)

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my dress. Fits true to size 🤍
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When we first brought Amalia home from the hospita When we first brought Amalia home from the hospital, we didn’t even think about sensitivities but we quickly noticed her skin was indeed sensitive, like mine and  Andrew’s 😢

We walked the aisles at Shoppers Drug Mart for a while,
browsing all the different baby wipes and it was actually a pharmacist who saw us and recommended the Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Baby Wipes. 

I’m grateful because a year later, these are still the only wipes we use, and she loves them 💛

To celebrate 60 years of caring for Canadians, Shoppers Drug Mart has curated a lineup of Top Picks: 60th Anniversary Edition – a collection of products in skin, body, hair, oral care, and even snacks, there’s something for everyone.

My Top 60 picks:
💛Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Baby Wipes
💛Listerine Total Care
💛Dove Intensive Repair Conditioner
💛John Frieda® Violet Crush Intense Purple Shampoo
💛Veet Pure Face Wax Strips
💛OLLY® Women's Multivitamin Blissful Berry

Congratulations on 60 years, @shoppersdrugmart. Here’s to 60 more!✨💛

PS- can you spot Zeus’s nose sniffin’ around?😂 he is a pro counter surfer 

#Shoppers60 #ShoppersTopPicks
#sponsored #gifted @shoppersdrugmart

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop this dress 
https://liketk.it/3OivF #rewardstylebloggers #rewardstyle #styleyoucantrust
I’ve seen the trending reels with the audio enco I’ve seen the trending reels with the audio encouraging moms to find themselves, 
“You gotta find you again. Not mom you or wife you, just you, sis” 
I love the trend- but what that audio doesn’t mention, is to find “you” you have to embrace that “mom you” is a new you. 

There is a term for the concept behind this new you. 
It’s called Matrescence.

Similar to how adolescence is a teenager's transition into adulthood, 
matrescence is a woman's transition into motherhood (welcoming all the physical, psychological and hormonal change that come with it.)

A name besides motherhood makes me feel as though mothers are being seen. 
We’re being seen for all that encompasses the journey of matrescence. 

So while finding “you”. 
Seek comfort in the knowledge that the you you find, isn’t going to be the old you. 
It may take time to get used to. 

You didn’t “bounce back”. How could you bounce back from all that you’ve been through?

Instead you’ve bounced up, 
and entered an entirely new, incredible, messy, overly stimulated, loving and rewarding new chapter. 

Welcome, you’re in matrescence ✨ 

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop our outfits
https://liketk.it/3O8ZD
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#canadianfamily #familiesofinstagram #momsofinsta #summertime #momlife #familiesofinsta #momsofig #momtruth #momsofinstagram #toddlermomlife #honestmom #motherhoodintheraw #mommandaughter #matrescence #momtalk #toddlermom #honestmotherhood #teammotherly #rewardstylebloggers #rewardstyleblogger #ltkfamily #ltkbaby #styleyoucantrust #basicoutfit #howtostyle
Sunday morning self care, with a few of my favouri Sunday morning self care,
with a few of my favourite things that help me feel refreshed. 💝

From diapers and wipes to skincare and makeup, to seeking pharmacy advice, Shoppers Drug Mart is my one stop shop for all my self care needs, for both me and my family. 

What’s your favourite self care items? 

To celebrate 60 years of caring for Canadians, Shoppers Drug Mart has curated a lineup of Top Picks: 60th Anniversary Edition – a collection of products in skin, body, hair, oral care, and even snacks, there’s something for everyone.

Some of the Top 60 products used:
💛Listerine Total Care
💛Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Baby Wipes
💛Dove Intensive Repair Conditioner
💛John Frieda® Violet Crush Intense Purple Shampoo
💛Veet Pure Face Wax Strips
💛OLLY® Women's Multivitamin Blissful Berry

#Shoppers60 #ShoppersTopPicks
#sponsored #gifted @shoppersdrugmart
My💖💖 In a world that seemingly has it all. My💖💖

In a world that seemingly has it all. There is one thing we lack.  And that’s self kindness.

If I could give my daughter (and nephew) one thing. It would be the gift of being kind to yourself. 
💛🧡💝💙
What’s one gift you’d give your kids? 

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my dress
https://liketk.it/3O1eA
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From sipping bone broth to browsing the different From sipping bone broth to browsing the different collagen powders at @shoppersdrugmart- I’ll try it all for some extra collagen. 
But did you know to look for specific numbers when looking at collagen powders?

 NeoCell® Super CollagenTM is made up of hydrolyzed collagen peptides type 1 & 3. The types that make up 90% of the body’s total collagen supply. 

The body’s natural collagen production typically slows with age - lucky us😢😂 
With the help of Super CollagenTM it provides us with some of the amino acids our body needs to support the healthy synthesis of the collagen proteins in our hair, skin and nails. 

And the Lysol ® Disinfecting Wipes help to keep my counters clean, furniture sticky free, and quick wipe downs wherever we go- killing 99.9% of viruses and bacteria. 
The same Lysol protection is now fully biodegradable in home and municipal compost.(check  locally as appropriate municipal composting, facilities may not exist in your area)
 
Don’t forget from August 13th - September 9th Shoppers Drug Mart is hosting the Celebrating 60 Contest. 
The contest gives Canadians a chance to win larger-than-life prizes!
To enter, scan your PC OptimumTM App or Shoppers Drug Mart® App at the time of purchase of your item(s) at any participating Shoppers Drug Mart store location.

 Have you tried the collagen powders from @shoppersdrugmart? What’s your favourite one?

#sponsored #Shoppers60Partner #Shoppers60 #ShoppersTopPicks
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Our Passage Into Parenthood

Your relationship with your partner ebs and flows throughout each new chapter.

When you enter into parenthood, your partner will see you at the height of your life – bringing your baby into this world. And they’ll also see you at your deepest depths, treading for air.

Motherhood is the greatest, most incredible gift of life. But man is it trying.

It’s a job that doesn’t stop. 24/7 365 days a year, you are on.
You are required to not only be physically present but mentally alert for each second of your baby’s waking, and sleeping hour. Constantly thinking of their joys, safety, health & future.

Within all of this, your partner is there. Working through their own transitions into fatherhood(or motherhood). Life as both of you know it has changed, for the better. And also harder.

Below I share my personal views. Please don’t take this as anything more than a connection, to know we are not alone on this incredible journey.

Communication

Communication is always #1 in any relationship. And adding another person to your dynamic makes communicating an imminent priority.

Without communication, you can both be left feeling hopeless, misunderstood and alone. So I cannot stress the importance of constantly communicating with your partner, enough.

Don’t sacrifice your goals and dreams.

I feel like there are so many sad songs and stories about a dream someone once had, and then they had kids. I never understood why their dream had to die.

Andrew and I love to dream. I often ask “what are you thinking” because I want to hear his daydreams and share mine with him.
My “what are you thinking” is the initiation into our daydreaming-brainstorming-chats.

Chase your goals: start the business, get the degree, do what you dream of doing.

But with that said be realistic, and communicate.

In Brenē Brown’s book “Atlas Of The Heart”, Brenē speaks on the power of communicating expectations.

On weekends Andrew and I communicate expectations that we have for that day or weekend, and the importance behind it.

This has been transformative in holding ourselves accountable, prioritizing, and reality checking our expectations.

It’s hard to make the time to put personal goals and dreams into action. But communicating expectations has been emotionally liberating, and imperative for us to make the time for our dream projects, while being a parent.

Intimacy

6 weeks postpartum is when majority of women are cleared by their healthcare provider to resume sex.

With that said, your body shifted for 9 months to create this incredible human, then birthed it!
It may take you longer than 6 weeks to heal, or you may be feeling touched out. So please, do what your body feels is best, and don’t rush what you’re not comfortable with.

I was warned to be prepared for use of lube when having sex again. My pelvic floor physiotherapist said due to hormonal changes & your cycle, you may need the extra help. So it may be useful to have that around, incase needed.

With that said, don’t go into it afraid.
Without TMI, our first time back after birth was pain-free and beautiful. So similar to your mindset around birth, don’t go in thinking it will be a negative experience.

Time Sensitive

It is an incredible blessing to see every advancement and milestone your baby hits, and this also can also mean less consistent sleeps (for us, at least as of late).
So learning to adjust to the changes and using the time you’ve got is key.

Elon Musk once said “If you give yourself 30 days to clean your home, it will take you 30 days. But if you give yourself 3 hours, it will take 3 hours” well, for parents, if you know you’ve got 15 minutes- it’ll take you 15 minutes.
IYKYK.

Keep your baby cam on, and your mind at ease.

Date Night

Date nights are no longer picking up and going. It requires someone to help you watch your baby, or you to feel confident enough to go out and dine with a new born who may be fussy.
If you’re out and your baby is fussy – there is no shame in nursing it out. There is also zero shame in saying f*** it. Let’s get take out.

Date nights shift. And like my point above, you pivot to the changes. Some of our best date nights have been by the fire at home if we couldn’t get anyone to help out with babysitting.

Be it date night out just the two of you, out with the baby, or at home cozied up – make sure to prioritize you two.
What makes you feel sexy? Getting dressed up, hair done, or makeup? Whatever it is, do what makes you feel good in your skin.

Your relationship will shift in this new chapter.
There is sleep deprivation, anxiety, hormones & a shift in attention. And with all of that, your relationship will gain new strength as you join together and grow.
Communicate, love & prioritize.

You will pickup new tips along the way that help you both sway with the tide. And in the moments when you feel like you’re fighting the current and being sucked under. Do as you would in the water.
Let it go – don’t fight it.

Always talk it out and love it out.

Everyone’s relationship works differently.
These are some of the things that have been golden for us in our new chapter.

What has been golden for you?

xx,
Lex

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Comments

  1. Tara says

    February 7, 2022 at 1:45 pm

    Loved reading the passage into parenthood. Communication is so important and I really like how you guys set your intentions and state why those intentions are important so you can tackle what needs to get done together.

    Reply
    • alexa.schopfer93@gmail.com says

      February 7, 2022 at 6:17 pm

      Thank you so much <3

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Miss Amalia Hope walking into Sunday school🥹💖!!!

I remember a few years ago before the teaching began, the pastor instructed the kiddos to head to their Sunday school classrooms. My mom leaned over and said, “one day that will be yours!” 

Fast forward, here we are💖

One confident, happy and kind hearted baby girl running around the classroom without a care.

Grateful is an understatement. 

(I cried whenever I was left alone 😂 so I am very thankful she did not get that from me 😂🙏🏼)

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my fall loafers. #ltkunder100 
https://liketk.it/3P3w8
🍁🍂💛 We never sit still, but how can you w 🍁🍂💛
We never sit still, but how can you when there is something new to see in every day.

The beauty I’m learning, in toddlerhood is they find the joy in almost anything.

A leaf? Won the lottery
Grocery shopping? A social event 
Walking out back? A chance to marvel at all the trees. 

Every parent knows it, but you really get a new chance to re live again when you have kids. A chance to see life for the beauty, simplicity, and pureness that it is. 

Grateful for the new vision parenthood continues to give me. 

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop our outfits
https://liketk.it/3OR5b
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#affordable #affordablestyle 
#canadianfamily #familiesofinstagram #momsofinsta #momlife #falloutfitideas #falloutfitinspo #toddlerfallfashion #toddlermomlife #honestmom #rewardstyle #styleyoucantrust #basicoutfit #howtostyle #loafer #toddlermom #girlmomlife #girlmomma #pinterestmom #fallstyle #momstylelife #wiwtd
Labour day weekend fun 💛🤍 Hope you had a sa Labour day weekend fun 💛🤍

Hope you had a safe and beautiful long weekend! 

My cottagecore dress is adorable (and affordable). I’d recommend sizing down for a fitted look, as it has a nice stretch to it. I’m in an xs 💖

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my outfits 
https://liketk.it/3OIkp
Easy like Sunday morning ✨💖 (➡️Peep Osca Easy like Sunday morning ✨💖

(➡️Peep Oscar and Amalia, 15 years from now 😂💛)

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my dress. Fits true to size 🤍
https://liketk.it/3OxIC
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#styleyoucantrust #momstyle #churchfamily #churchdresses
When we first brought Amalia home from the hospita When we first brought Amalia home from the hospital, we didn’t even think about sensitivities but we quickly noticed her skin was indeed sensitive, like mine and  Andrew’s 😢

We walked the aisles at Shoppers Drug Mart for a while,
browsing all the different baby wipes and it was actually a pharmacist who saw us and recommended the Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Baby Wipes. 

I’m grateful because a year later, these are still the only wipes we use, and she loves them 💛

To celebrate 60 years of caring for Canadians, Shoppers Drug Mart has curated a lineup of Top Picks: 60th Anniversary Edition – a collection of products in skin, body, hair, oral care, and even snacks, there’s something for everyone.

My Top 60 picks:
💛Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Baby Wipes
💛Listerine Total Care
💛Dove Intensive Repair Conditioner
💛John Frieda® Violet Crush Intense Purple Shampoo
💛Veet Pure Face Wax Strips
💛OLLY® Women's Multivitamin Blissful Berry

Congratulations on 60 years, @shoppersdrugmart. Here’s to 60 more!✨💛

PS- can you spot Zeus’s nose sniffin’ around?😂 he is a pro counter surfer 

#Shoppers60 #ShoppersTopPicks
#sponsored #gifted @shoppersdrugmart

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop this dress 
https://liketk.it/3OivF #rewardstylebloggers #rewardstyle #styleyoucantrust
I’ve seen the trending reels with the audio enco I’ve seen the trending reels with the audio encouraging moms to find themselves, 
“You gotta find you again. Not mom you or wife you, just you, sis” 
I love the trend- but what that audio doesn’t mention, is to find “you” you have to embrace that “mom you” is a new you. 

There is a term for the concept behind this new you. 
It’s called Matrescence.

Similar to how adolescence is a teenager's transition into adulthood, 
matrescence is a woman's transition into motherhood (welcoming all the physical, psychological and hormonal change that come with it.)

A name besides motherhood makes me feel as though mothers are being seen. 
We’re being seen for all that encompasses the journey of matrescence. 

So while finding “you”. 
Seek comfort in the knowledge that the you you find, isn’t going to be the old you. 
It may take time to get used to. 

You didn’t “bounce back”. How could you bounce back from all that you’ve been through?

Instead you’ve bounced up, 
and entered an entirely new, incredible, messy, overly stimulated, loving and rewarding new chapter. 

Welcome, you’re in matrescence ✨ 

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop our outfits
https://liketk.it/3O8ZD
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Sunday morning self care, with a few of my favouri Sunday morning self care,
with a few of my favourite things that help me feel refreshed. 💝

From diapers and wipes to skincare and makeup, to seeking pharmacy advice, Shoppers Drug Mart is my one stop shop for all my self care needs, for both me and my family. 

What’s your favourite self care items? 

To celebrate 60 years of caring for Canadians, Shoppers Drug Mart has curated a lineup of Top Picks: 60th Anniversary Edition – a collection of products in skin, body, hair, oral care, and even snacks, there’s something for everyone.

Some of the Top 60 products used:
💛Listerine Total Care
💛Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Baby Wipes
💛Dove Intensive Repair Conditioner
💛John Frieda® Violet Crush Intense Purple Shampoo
💛Veet Pure Face Wax Strips
💛OLLY® Women's Multivitamin Blissful Berry

#Shoppers60 #ShoppersTopPicks
#sponsored #gifted @shoppersdrugmart
My💖💖 In a world that seemingly has it all. My💖💖

In a world that seemingly has it all. There is one thing we lack.  And that’s self kindness.

If I could give my daughter (and nephew) one thing. It would be the gift of being kind to yourself. 
💛🧡💝💙
What’s one gift you’d give your kids? 

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop my dress
https://liketk.it/3O1eA
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From sipping bone broth to browsing the different From sipping bone broth to browsing the different collagen powders at @shoppersdrugmart- I’ll try it all for some extra collagen. 
But did you know to look for specific numbers when looking at collagen powders?

 NeoCell® Super CollagenTM is made up of hydrolyzed collagen peptides type 1 & 3. The types that make up 90% of the body’s total collagen supply. 

The body’s natural collagen production typically slows with age - lucky us😢😂 
With the help of Super CollagenTM it provides us with some of the amino acids our body needs to support the healthy synthesis of the collagen proteins in our hair, skin and nails. 

And the Lysol ® Disinfecting Wipes help to keep my counters clean, furniture sticky free, and quick wipe downs wherever we go- killing 99.9% of viruses and bacteria. 
The same Lysol protection is now fully biodegradable in home and municipal compost.(check  locally as appropriate municipal composting, facilities may not exist in your area)
 
Don’t forget from August 13th - September 9th Shoppers Drug Mart is hosting the Celebrating 60 Contest. 
The contest gives Canadians a chance to win larger-than-life prizes!
To enter, scan your PC OptimumTM App or Shoppers Drug Mart® App at the time of purchase of your item(s) at any participating Shoppers Drug Mart store location.

 Have you tried the collagen powders from @shoppersdrugmart? What’s your favourite one?

#sponsored #Shoppers60Partner #Shoppers60 #ShoppersTopPicks
Spent the weekend fighting off a nasty cold. It’ Spent the weekend fighting off a nasty cold.
It’s as if my body knew the only way I’d rest is if it gave me no other option. 
We have to remember to rest - but when?😂
Feels good to feel good again.
Enjoy this rainy Monday ✨💖

Follow my shop @alexaschopfer on the @shop.LTK app to shop this outfit!
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